To act as a friend to somebody during a difficult time is a most beautiful gift of support you can give.
I have spent my whole life being a single person, in the sense that I can do it all and I don’t need anybody. This comes from early things that happened in my childhood and what shapes a person. Hey it’s probably why I have a success business built by my own hand!
Basically I never felt safe, so made myself safe. Safe means different things to different people. I have spent this last year in personal therapy which I highly advocate! If covid19 and lockdowns did anything positive for me it was that! I have for want of other words ‘grown up’ from allowing my younger self to run the show and allowed the adult version of me to take control and be in charge of the show.
We are not yesterday or tomorrow. People grow and change. Sometimes people remain stuck and I guess that is because there are lessons needed to be learnt within whatever you are stuck in and you will not move through it until you transform whatever ‘it’ is.
I guess I have transformed a big element of me being ‘single’ as recently at a time of need I did not do what I always do and that’s like a lot of us, shut myself away and not ask for help. Instead I actively reached out to both my family and friends.
Point is I realised that I am NOT ALONE, I have a magnitude of friends and family who ALL when called upon dropped everything for me. Clearly demonstrating to me that I have transformed from someone who could only rely on myself to someone who reaches out and connects and been met with LOVE!
I am truly lucky 🍀 to have people like this in my life. It’s of course late in the day when they have been there all along! But better late than never!
I hope my friends know how much I adore them and incredibly grateful to have these amazing beautiful humans in my circle!
If you feel like I have. ALONE even being in a room full of people. The bravest thing you can ever do is to ask for help. I promise there will be someone there for you.
Below is a exerp from the daily OM and it’s very on point!
One of the greatest gifts we can give another human being is to act as their guardian. Whether this gift is related to a specific situation or is representative of an ongoing commitment, we each benefit from the association. To protect someone is to walk with them in challenging times and see them through safely to the other side. In doing this, we grow with them. And those under our guardianship derive confidence from our support and assistance, enabling them to persevere through almost any conditions.
There are many reasons we feel inspired to serve as guardians to those we care for. Sometimes just holding the space for somebody allows them to do what is necessary to grow or heal. We may simply want to see that our friend or loved one is taken care of and equipped to prevail over difficult circumstances. We may also sense that we are in possession of knowledge our loved ones are lacking yet need in their current stage of development. Our offer to serve as a guardian may also be both unsolicited and unrelated to any one situation. Instead of helping someone we care about cope with a specific challenge, we may find ourselves providing them with a more general form of emotional sustenance that prepares and strengthens them for challenges yet to come.
Our ability to empathize with those under our guardianship is our greatest asset because our comprehension of their needs allows us to determine how we can best serve them. Even when this comprehension is limited, however, the loving intentions with which we enter into our role as guardian ensure that our care and protection help others grow as individuals while living their lives with grace.